Using Captive Audiences to Attract Women

Tired of being just another swipe in the dating app wasteland? The secret to success isn’t chasing—it’s positioning.

As I have been working on some new material, I’ve been going over and reworking some of my older stuff for clarity. I will now share an update of my work originally titled “Meeting Women: RPS's Definitive Guide to Captive Audiences”

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The Captive Audience

Where do you meet women? It’s almost more important than knowing what to do when you meet one. What good is game if you can’t even get an introduction?

Online dating has subjected women to an onslaught of infinite peen with little effort beyond a swipe. New apps try to counteract the paradox of choice: when faced with endless options, the easiest decision is none at all. And women prove this daily, both online and in person. What need does a hot "asset" have for any of you when she has thousands of Instagram followers drooling over her cleavage selfies? What could you offer her that the masses don’t already provide?

A Captive Audience

Yet, despite this illusion of abundance, the digital facsimile of a social life can only take her so far. It clouds her judgment and hinders solid decision-making, but it won’t bring long-term happiness… and she knows it. Like a junk food addict aware of the consequences but unable to resist the empty calories, she indulges anyway.

While dating is ultimately a numbers game, you can tip the scales in your favor by working smarter, not harder.

The online opener seems to rarely work, and depends heavily on looks. If you’re reading this, you’re likely already aware that you need to get yourself into shape, clean yourself up, and become the best version of yourself. Yet, guys I’ve mentored over the years report that despite some limited success with these strategies, they still struggle with square one - meeting women and building enough rapport to get to the next step.

Approaching strangers at a bar gives you 5–10 seconds to make your pitch. Dating apps offer even less, stripping away wit and charm, leaving only cold, black-and-white text. Is it any wonder that cold approaches are ineffective?

So what’s the trick?

Building Rapport via a Captive Audience

Before anyone gets their panties in a twist, I’m not suggesting you kidnap women. While the dark triad’s Stockholm play may have its successes in history, becoming a fugitive for pussy is hardly worth the price of admission.

A captive audience is key to lowering a woman’s defenses. It creates natural opportunities for interaction, allows her to participate in building rapport, and gives you extra time to work your charm… something a one-liner in a club or a sassy Tinder bio just can’t achieve.

What Is a Captive Audience?

To quote myself from earlier posts I’ve made on this subject:

A captive audience is a social environment where interaction is expected or required by norm or rule. The defining trait is implicit permission to engage, along with an extended window of time for that engagement.

Because of this extended exposure, you have a better shot at building rapport and showcasing your full toolkit. Unlike a bar, club, or online dating, where immediate attraction and strong openers matter most, a captive audience setting lets you use humor, wit, and personality to break down a woman’s barriers without relying solely on looks.

Women keep barriers up — even against men they might ultimately choose — to filter out the weak and the undesirable. It’s on men to be creative in bypassing them. Yes, immediate physicality is the fastest way to lower defenses, but not everyone was blessed with elite genes or a model-tier mug. Myself included.

Exploitable Captive Audiences

1. Coworkers

The workplace is one of the most common places couples meet. Depending on your job, you may spend hours a day with potential targets, giving you ample time to build rapport. However, be mindful. Women like novelty. You can talk yourself out of a sale just as easily as into one if you don’t set the tone early and often.

Workplaces lower the pressure, but you must maintain a subtle sexual pretense early to prevent being seen as just a work friend. Keep jokes light but intriguing, and avoid overt sexual advances until she agrees to meet outside work. Be mindful if it’s an important career you don’t want to lose, don’t step over into harassment territory. Read the room. Maybe get a second job.

2. Customers

One of the best captive audiences is customers—new faces constantly flowing in. Jobs like bartending, DJing, bouncing, or waiting tables offer a steady stream of fresh prospects.

Your interaction window is shorter, but the time constraint forces boldness, and failure carries minimal downside… there’s always another customer. Be charismatic and practice social skills. These environments work best when you keep things light and playful while subtly introducing sexual tones.

Bartending, in particular, shines. You control the drinks, the conversation, and the atmosphere. A playful drink name can serve as an opener for risqué banter. With just one drink, most women will engage. While they give other guys the cold shoulder, you have express permission to flirt as you craft their drink. Bartending gets my stamp of approval as the best captive audience of all time.

3. Friends & Parties

Over the years, I’ve realized something: unless you’re extremely outgoing, going to someone else’s party is a crapshoot for getting laid. But hosting your own party is an entirely different game.

The social proof of being the host is a massive turn-on. As long as your party isn’t a total sausage fest and you’ve got a bunch of people and good music, you’re going to clean up.

Women at parties give the cold-shoulder just as effectively as in any other setting. But when you’re the host, you’re in a unique position with implicit permission to talk to everyone. Welcome each guest personally, introduce physicality early (hugs, tours, make them drinks), and make them feel at home. By the time they’ve mingled, you’ve already built rapport ahead of anyone else.

Parties accelerate attraction because constant social movement tricks the brain into feeling like more time has passed. Bonds form quicker, and your role as the host grants you instant credibility.

Conclusion

These are just a few examples of captive audiences you can exploit, but the list is far from exhaustive. Other options include school, classes, volunteer work, festivals, hobby groups, and fitness communities. Play to your strengths. If throwing a house party isn’t viable, bartending for a few months could build your network significantly.

If you’re still in high school, now’s the time to start approaching. Your network will serve you for years, long after graduation.

What are some other captive audiences you’ve found success with? Which ones suit your strengths best? Discuss.